Romance movies and real life

By Shay Sweet

The plot in a romance film is not the workings of genius. Guy meets girl, guy and girl fall in love, and an obstacle is then introduced resulting in a grand gesture of reconciliation filled with tears and laughter. But is this realistic?  These films depict love in the terms of “soul mates” that produce idealistic standards towards the way real life relationships evolve.  The entertainment industry has put making money and feel good endings above all else, guiding the misconception that love is a fairy tale

I will be the first to admit that I love nothing more than snuggling up on the couch and tuning in to my favorite romantic comedy.  They give viewers a sense of hope and may mask whatever hardships you are experiencing in your own life for those two hours, but once the credits begin to scroll, what are you left with? Alyssa Rothstein, 20, a sophomore at Lasell stated that after viewing these movies she always compares her present relationships to those on the big screen. She went on to ask herself, “ Why isn’t my boyfriend writing me love letters, singing songs or breaking out in dance with the single thought of me like the leading men in the films do?”

An Article by BBC stated:

“They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.  Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.”

‘Pretty in Pink’, ‘When Harry Met Sally’, and ‘Wuthering Heights’ are all examples of classic films where two individuals withstand the obstacles put in the way of love.  The image produced is glamorous, with valiant music being played to secure the excitement felt by the actors.  This is not always the case for real life.  You don’t always marry your high school sweetheart, meet a prince or are whisked away on some foreign adventure.  There is divorce, cheating, abuse and less exciting factors that play in to feelings diminishing that does not hold true to the Hollywood standards.

The reason humans connect with these films is out of the natural instinct to love.  Whether it’s young, unrequited, forbidden or tragic love, we have a fascination with the compassion that can come from the perfect combination of two individuals meeting. The film industry has been depicting unrealistic love since their rise in popularity in the 1920’s with movies such as ‘The Garden of Eden’ and ‘The Hunchback of Notre Dame’ and as long as the studios are raking in the revenue there seems to be no end in sight.


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